Intentionally Social: 3 Reasons Keep Social Media


Hubby and I were recently talking about all things social media. I told him that back in April I was ready to delete all social media accounts because I was over it. Then I told him that I was going going to make it so it was just friends and family who lived really far away.

I was really struggling the fairness of social media. not saying thane in particular was behaving in that way…..I was struggling. And yet there was this sense that I needed to wait. On morning I woke up and did my bible study and as I began my day. I reached for my phone and opened facebook and there staring me in the face was the cutest little face……It was a video I had taken of our then 2 year old saying something adorable as always…..I scrolled a little further…….a post from a book that I was reading talking about our relationship with God……I scrolled aliyyle further a post I had written about something I was struggling with……Not about some one else…about me.

I told hubbyThat it hit me right then and there that’s why I have social media……memories. I know I know I said in the image that there were three reasons and there are but the overarching reason is the memories.

Memories- A Recounting of the kids

Man there is NOTHING better than seeing your 4 year old “preaching” or your two year old pulling back his commentary that all girls are duped” when he realizes him mama is a girl *Gasp*

Those memories bring back smiles and giggles from all involved. then there are the hard moments. this moments that might be about a struggle . It’s good for us to remember. God taught the Israelites to set up memorial stones and pillars to remind them of where they had come from.

Memories- the things we have learned

This one is big for me! I read A LOT. I have currently finished 35 books for the year and am working on books 36-41…..I have 4 more waiting in the wings the will jump on that list as soon as something comes off. I also have one book for a launch team that I am waiting to arrive and that will jump on as soon as it arrives. Now I NEVER have shared book numbers here before. It’s not really about how many books I read but I want someway for the info I am putting in to come back in the future.

Like I mentioned above, the memory specifically on facebook will show up every year on that day! and more than once I have needed to see what I’ve shared. It serves as an encouragement as to where I have been and where I am headed

BONUS benefit: When someone writes in the comments that what I have shared has met them where they are and that it was exactly what they needed! that is always a huge blessing to me because THAT means I am not alone in my struggles.

Memories: The things I have written.

One of my biggest regrets over the last few years is deleting the things I have written that have been misinterpreted because it is a reminder of where I have been and what I have struggled with. I have written about some those things here on my blog.

Writing is my outlet and it is for ME. If someone is helped along the way THAT’s fabulous. I always feel so blessed when someone has shared with me about how my writing has changed them.

I have made mistakes too….I have vented…..I have gotten frustrated……but as I have grown I have realized that intentionality is so important. (Stay tuned for another blog post coming up on being intentional). But even in those instances I have learned from those mistakes and grown leaps and bounds. I know that when I am finished with this blog post right now I will go and share it to my social media platforms.

And from there it will get stored in some memory bank and in a year…..and in 10 years and in 20 years this post will come up in my memories and it will serve as a reminder to me … one else can see my memories Just me.

Two more benefits of intentionally taming our social media usage:

When I started this blog post a few weeks ago there were only 3 points but since then I have come up with two more important points.

  • Prayer- on more than one occasion in the last few weeks I have seen urgent prayer requests of family/ friends who are going through major issues of some form or another. I hope that our words of encouragement lift them up and bless them and as we pray for them I pray that encourages them as well.
  • And lastly as a ministry family one of the things social media does for us is keep us connected to a) our ministry friends who are far away-even in other countries…..we have ministry friends in Italy, Brazil, Africa, Canada, Ecuador (just to name a few) and then there are those ministry friends all over the country….In many different states. With social media they are only one click away!

I want to challenge you to be intentional! In everything You do!

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Happy Homemaker Monday 9-14-2020


HAPPY MONDAY EVERYONE! I generally enjoy Mondays but I woke up this morning feeling like ..”Yep. it’s a Monday”.

Wow I can’t believe it’s been almost a month since we began our homeschooling journey. I know we have homeschooled one kiddo before but all four is a new undertaking. On a whole it has been an enjoyable process with some small hitches.

New York is on it’s decline into full fledged fall weather and some of the trees are beginning to change.

♥♥The Weather♥♥

Our temperatures have finally dropped and I couldn’t be happier.  I am more than ok with 80’s.  

Monday – 63
Tuesday – 67
Wednesday – 76
Thursday – 64
Friday – 56
Saturday – 55
Sunday – 62

♥♥How I am feeling this morning♥♥

I generally wake up Monday mornings feeling like “Yay, It’s a new week, a clean slate to tackle life, This morning I however woke up saying “ugh Allergies.” and just generally UGH. I think I am just tired. Headed to church for my reboot. Hubby is giving me a day to fulfill my Introverted needs 

♥♥On my mind♥♥

All that needs to be done. The new fridge shows up on Wednesday (the old one does after two years (totally bought the service plan this time!!)

♥♥On the breakfast plate♥♥

Hubby made frech toast and bacon

♥♥On my reading pile♥♥

  • A Rose in a Dirch
  • Rose in Bloom
  • Creating a Peaceful Home
  • A horse and His Boy
  • In His Image
  • in All Things
  • The book of Philippians

♥♥On my tv♥♥

Silver Spoons and Hazel

♥♥On the menu this week♥♥

Monday – Sloppy Joes and French fries
Tuesday –
Wednesday – 
Thursday –  
Friday –
Saturday – 
Sunday – 

The menu isn’t completed yet because I have to re-work what I already had to incorporate the food I had to cook from the dead freezer

♥♥From The Camera♥♥

Stop Motion Pictures have over Taken my camera

♥♥Looking around the house♥♥

Well the downstairs is pretty spotless but the upstairs Kinda exploded with all of the stop motions fun

♥♥New recipe I tried last week, or one that we really enjoyed♥♥

Potato and Leek soup. and bread bowls. that was fun. Everyone really enjoyed it  

♥♥To relax this week, I will♥♥

It it my goal to crack open the sketch book and doodle a bit. and finish up my doodling class I’m watching on Skillshare

♥♥Something I want to share♥♥

Nothing really

♥♥On my prayer list♥♥  

Family and friends who are going through stuff (sorry can’t really share). our church. our country and the world we live in.

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Summer Fun! Happy Homemaker Monday 7/27/2020

Good evening everyone I had high hopes of getting this done this morning but last night was a a TRIP! I was home alone with the two dogs and Hubby’s pooch Nugget was not loving the idea that dad and the kids were away! Needless to say I didn’t get very much sleep and have been fighting a raging headache all day. I am feeling better now but boy am I excited for bed time!

So here we go!!

♥♥The Weather♥♥

It’s another hot start to the week and I’m ok with that!! It’s rare we see so many hot hot days here in this part of NY and I am loving it. Tonight though we will have a change after some thunder storms roll through and it gets cooler.

Monday – 90
Tuesday – 80
Wednesday – 79
Thursday –  76
Friday – 76
Saturday –  79
Sunday – 77

♥♥How I am feeling this morning♥♥

I kinda already told you how I was feeling this morning. Right now I am just exhausted and when hubby gets home I will be heading directly to bed.             

♥♥On my mind♥♥

I have a dear friend who has some major health concerns. she has been battling hard and I have been praying for the things that weigh heaviest on her heart. she is always thinking about others even in the midst of her struggles.                  

♥♥On the breakfast plate♥♥

coffee and a sandwich

♥♥On my reading pile♥♥

  • Choose Joy
  • My personality tree
  • The second book in the Wingfeather Saga (with the kids)
  • A Rose in Bloom
  • My Bible

♥♥On my tv♥♥

Nothing really

♥♥On the menu this week♥♥

Monday -Chicken Stir Fry
Tuesday – Taco Soup
Wednesday – Hamburgers and Fries
Thursday –  Chicken with roasted beets, zucchini and summer squash
Friday –  BBQ Pork sandwiches and potato Salad
Saturday – Chicken Tenders and sweet potato fries
Sunday – Homemade subs and leftovers

♥♥From the camera♥♥    Summer SUNSET

This was taken last night by hubby while he camped with 7 kiddos in the woods not too far from our house.

♥♥Looking around the house♥♥

Everywhere I look this week there is a bunch of fine tuning. Not anything huge BUT a lot of decluttering. This seems to happen a lot during the summer when we are doing more hanging out with friends and doing some summer-y fun things.

♥♥Chore I’m not looking forward to today, or this week♥♥

I need to take care of some stuff in our bedroom but it’s hard during the summer because I would rather be outside.

♥♥To relax this week, I will♥♥

Enjoy the summer sun while ……. reading, some painting and finish the fine details in my craft room

♥♥Something I want to share♥♥

The past few weeks we have been getting a box of veggies each week from a local farmer (friends who go to our church). Our box costs right around 25 dollars and we have had the chance to try some amazing new things like fennel and white cucumbers. The cool thing is we are supporting local business and it’s something that benefits the health of our entire family.

♥♥On my prayer list♥♥

  • The friend I mentioned before
  • Friends and family who have been sick and battling various illnesses
  • so many more

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Teachable Spirit 101


Have you ever heard someone say that we need to have a teachable spirit? As a kid I heard this a lot. from teachers both at school and church but as with so many things from childhood many people said lots of things that sounded great but they never explained what they meant.

A few months ago I was in a conversation with hubby and I said something that made me stop and think about what I said. I said , I really enjoy working with people who have teachable spirits.” and as the day went on I began to ask myself what does that mean? What makes someone have a teachable spirit and some don’t?

So that’s when I started to really evaluate what it means. it’s taken months. Much longer than I had ever thought it would take. But in the end I have come up with 5 areas of teachability. I want you to really prayerfully seek out what God has to say about these areas of your life. after all it’s not about what we think about our lives BUT what God thinks about them!

(1) Are you more interested in taking in as much information as you can or are you eager to take what you learn and apply it to your life?

It’s not about how much you know (or think you know). What really matters is what you do with what you know.

Proverbs 1:5 ?NIV

let the wise listen and add to their learning,
    and let the discerning get guidance—

(2) Are You willing to Learn in every situation that comes your way? Are You willing to ask God to show You what He wants you to learn from your current circumstances before reacting to them?

When it comes right down to it it doesn’t matter what we think about our circumstances OR what others think bout them. God has a very specific plan and purpose for our circumstances. This goes from the very minute to the extreme

(3) Do You have a spirit of humility? Do You go into any teaching with an attitude of what can I learn from this. (HINT : YOU CAN ALWAYS LEARN SOMETHING BUT IT’S COMPLETELY UP TO YOU!!)

I know many people who will come away from a message or a Sunday school class saying they got nothing from it. OR they will say Oh I do hope so and so was listening to that. They really needed to hear that. the problem is we all need to really hear what is being said. I find it amazing that some people even feel the need to be insulting. This shows a severe lack of humility. Considering God has chosen that man to teach it shows a severe lack of wisdom as well.

Proverbs 11:2

When pride comes, then comes disgrace,
    but with humility comes wisdom.

In Bible College this was seen frequently in young cocky students who came in thinking they knew more that the professor who has been preaching and studying God’s word longer than those students had been alive. There was a vast difference from the students who sought to learn from the professor verses the ones who sought to distract and argue with the professors. One group enhanced the learning process and the others created disunity and frustration. It kept the others from learning where the others fostered deeper learning usually by asking helpful questions..

James 3:13-18
13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. 17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.

(4) Do I let my emotions, attitudes, or preferences get in the way me learning what God wants me to learn? Do these things distract me and others from focusing on the greatest purpose of our lives: reaching others for Jesus?

I can’t tell you the number of times I have watched people spout off in anger just to eat their words later when they realized someone unsaved or new was watching them when they “sweated over the small stuff”. In one moment of the person being upset they ruined their testimony? was it worth it? Probably not. the Bible tells us again and again to put away all kinds of anger…and to be slow to speak and quick to listen.

Proverbs 14:29 ESV

When pride comes, then comes disgrace,
    but with humility comes wisdom.

Colossians 4:5-6 ESV

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.

(5) Do we seek understanding in situations rather than jumping to conclusions?

So many times we fail to think or see that God is doing something far beyond ourselves. We get angry. We pound our fists on the table and we stomp our feet and we raise our voices and generally act like toddlers having a temper tantrum..

Many times if we just took the time to ask some well thought out questions AND then LISTEN to the answers and the heart that goes behind it. The reality is we are small minded people. To quote Mary Poppins “sometimes we can’t se past the end of our own noses. ” We become self absorbed by our rights and preferences that we forget that God tells us to lay them down and die to ourselves.

So How do I make a change? How do I become a teachable spirit?

Well if you are asking that question you are headed down the right path.

Here are three easy things you can do to change our attitude

  • Start asking questions AND listen with an open heart to the answers.
  • Start asking ourselves what can I learn from the person teaching me?
  • Ask God to show yo what He wants you to learn and then listen to HIM because He WILL answer.

James 1:5-8 NIV

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.

One of the greatest things I have learned on this journey of becoming a teachable spirit is that this all comes down to a choice we need to make. Do we want to be used by God or. do we want to be used against God’s purposes. Satan doesn’t want us to be teachable. he wants us to be angry and stuck in our ways. When I think of a person who was transformed the most from t unteachable to teachable is the apostle Paul. He couldn’t see the truth because his eyes were blinded by anger and contempt for the “new way God wanted things to be done. He was angered so much by the gospel that he persecuted and murdered people because of their faith in Jesus..

It took Jesus striking him physically blind for his eyes to be opened and for his heart to be transformed to a teachable person. What’s it going to take fr you and I to be transformed to being teachable. It doesn’t have to be so hard. Will you choose> Or will God choose for you? OR will you go into eternity feeling angry , bitter and unfulfilled. The choice is ours to make.

Happy Homemaker Monday 7/13/2020

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♥♥The Weather♥♥

Cooler this week which make the hubby SUPER happy!

Monday –
Tuesday – 75
Wednesday – 81
Thursday –  80
Friday – 80
Saturday –  86
Sunday – 88

♥♥How I am feeling this morning♥♥

FExhausted I slept in til 730. I never do that I am up between 5 and 6 every day

♥♥On my mind♥♥

Im tired. Honestly since the whole heat exhaustion incident Friday might I have found myself wanting to sleep lot. we have some friends going through some horrible losses and some terrible illnesses.

♥♥On the breakfast plate♥♥
Bullseyes except mine are made with egg whites

♥♥On my reading pile♥♥

  • Eight Cousins by Louisa May Alcott (kindle)
  • The WingFeather Saga: On the Sark Edge if the Dark Sea of Darkness (with the kids)Kindle)
  • Your Personality tree by Florence Littaur Hard Copy)
  • Choose Joy by Kay Warren (Hard Copy)
  • Coffe Shop Conversations (Kindle)
  • 2 PDF books (not sure what they will be but they will be hard copies as well)
  • My Bible Specifically the book f Philippians

♥♥On my tv♥♥
nothing really. whatever suits my fancy on PureFlix

♥♥On the menu this week♥♥

Monday – Burgers and fries with cheese and bacon and fresh cucumbers
Tuesday – Chef Salads
Wednesday – Spaghetti Dinner. (salad, garlic Bread )
Thursday – baked Chicken and roasted veggies
Friday –  Chicken Patties Sweet Poatoe fries and fresh veggies
Saturday – Loaded Nachos
Sunday –   Smoked Chicken and baked potatoes

♥♥From the cameral♥♥

♥♥Looking around the house♥♥

I have some fine-tuning to do The weekend was terribly busy.

♥♥Chore I’m not looking forward to today, or this week♥♥

My bedroom for sure.  (I know I know it’s the same as last week)

♥♥To relax this week, I will♥♥

sleep and replenish my body with liquids (I may have had a bout with heat exhaustion late last week.)

♥♥On my prayer list♥♥

  • hurting and sick friends and family
  • our country
  • our church
  • friends and family

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