Putting On My Oxygen Mask

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Have you seen Mom’s Night Out?  It’s a movie that released a little over a year ago, right around mothers day.   It took us almost a year to see and my darling husband found it at a store and bought it for me……I LOVE THAT MOVIE.  Without fail, it makes me cry..Every. Single Time !   No joke and it usually is a different part each time, for it meets me right where I am in that moment.

The title of this blog post comes from that movie, and it is the very thing my husband said to me 4 days ago.  I was a bit uncertain about this week.  In all honesty I was having second thoughts about the entire idea.  My husband had this idea for me a year ago as we were making he decision to place our camper on a permanent lot at a Bible Conference a few hours from home.  We had no idea at that time what our lives would look like in a year and let me tell you if I had the choice to live this last year over again, Im not sure I could do it.   It’s only by God’s amazing grace that we have made it through with our marriage and family intact and I believe stronger.  Im still not ready to post about it, but it IS coming I promise.  We were hurt in some horrible ways.  Most people who know of our last year are shocked that we are still where we are.   And we had no idea that the decision to put our camper at the Bible Conference would lead to such great healing and respite for our family.  So here I sit.  IN my little retreat I have been completely alone for nearly 36 hours.  Im at peace.  I am feeling refreshed and renewed and I sill have another 3 1/2 days .  I have written and read and studied and blogged. I have rested ….AND BARELY SPOKEN TO ANYONE!  I have talked to my husband and kids a few times over the last day on the phone but that is the limit of my conversing.  It’s ok Im an introvert.  Maybe that’s why I needed this so much.

The premise of needing to putting on my oxygen mask is this…a quote from one of my college profs

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And that was the premise behind the overly long observation of the husband in Mom’s Night Out.   The dad travels A LOT.  So when he FINALLY connected the dots, the idea of the oxygen mask in the airplane resonated with him.  you have to help yourself before you can help someone else get their mask on.  I needed to take some deep spiritual cleansing breaths before I can tackle another round of insanity..    If I don’t have my relationship with God front and center, how can I possibly give my kids and husband what they need?  How can I teach?  How can I write to you?   My husband knew this line would resonate with me and it did…it made me smile to.  he told me  ” you need this, and you are going to love it”   He was right…..on both counts.

So I want to say THANKS HONEY, for cheering me on to do this, to go beyond my normal, to stretch myself and to feed my soul .  and if you happen to be a guy reading this  and your wife is looking a little…or a lot frazzled, why don’t you consider a way to encourage her to put on her oxygen mask!  and if you are a mom, can I just take a moment to encourage you to take a step back, take a deep refreshing breath and sit at the feet of Jesus. Turn your chair away from the chaos  that is where you are and face  it to a window.  I know what it is to not have the words to say, the tears flow easily and no words come.  I know that ache that makes you want to be sick and I want you to know that HE hears the very cry of your heart without  uttering One.Single. Sound.   he knows and he loves you  even in the biggest of messes!  Wont you meet him there He’s waiting!

Happy Homemaker August 10th 2015

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The weather in my neck of the woods Well its warm and it WAS sunny but rain and T-storms are coming, I hear rain drops beginning to fall on the canopy That tools out from our camper

: Things that make me happy:Being at my favorite Bible conference

Menu for this week:easy stuff mainly sandwiches.  I’m only feeding me…because my hubby and kids aren’t her

What’s on my TV today:no TV this week.  the only video in the entire camper is the sound of Music with Carrie Underwood

Looking around the house: UMMM, camper.  I have been inside much but there are a few dishes and some general straightening that needs done

On my To Do List: write, read, write read, Posts for RGT and go to the bible conf services twice a day

New Recipe I tried or want to try soon: none right now

In the craft basket: nothing here. I have nothing crafty with me (SHOCKER)

Looking forward to this week: seeing my hubby and kids at the end of the week

Tips and Tricks: “YOU HAVE TO PUT ON YOUR OXYGEN MASK BEFORE YOU CAN HELP OTHERS WITH THEIR” Line from Mom’s Night Out.  The line my husband quoted to me as he left me here at our camper, my home for the week.

My favorite blog post this week: written by my friend Noelle Check it out here. (side note I hold different convictions to Noelle when it come to alcohol and thats ok because they are my convictions and not hers.  I think Noelle beautifully captures the hearts of most moms in her current phase of motherhood.  she is brutally honest which is refreshing and beautiful!)

Blog Hopping (a new discovered blog you would like to share with the readers): Check out Noelle’s blog here

No words needed (favorite photo or picture):  www.walking-by-faith.net-2

Lesson learned the past few days: They really are too many to count as I am spending every single moment alone…I know my introvertedness is glaringly obvious when I am by myself!  It really is quite funny.  I thin may be I have said 3 whole sentences in two days….outside of my talking to my hubby and kids on the phone

On my mind: DUH my husband and kids

Devotionals, Scripture Reading, Key Verses: I have been reading and writing like crazy.  I have been writing about Eve.  Eve is an absolutely fascinating person!   Be watching for Wednesdays Coffe With Friends Post to see my Pen Pal Letter to Eve!

For More Happy Homemaker Posts Check out: http://familycorner.blogspot.com

Stretched Beyond Our Limits: On Being Willing to Try New Things

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New things…..That is what Life is all about. If you come to a place where you think you know everything that you need to know YOU ARE DONE.  you can no longer move forward!   You Must be willing to try new things, new methods, new ideas, new ministries. This is where God has been taking me lately  its been all about the new.   And I have a feeling there is more “new” around the corner but That NEW is for another blog post once I know JUST what that NEW looks like!  But for now lets talk about the few new things I’ve been stretched in.

I have often told my husband over the last 12 years that when the time came I would love to donate my time and energy at a Pregnancy center. Well after attending a banquet this spring , that calling became a reality.  Hubby ad I both decided it was time.   And so for the last two months, pretty much every Wednesday I have been volunteering,, mentoring, building relationships, and doing some cleaning/organizing work as well.  My confidence in some  areas is very low(for this introverted girl)  There are some great moments and some not so great moments that are hard.   AND THEN THERE ARE AMZING MOMENTS that make me want to shout from the roof top BUT I can’t, because everything is confidential and in that I am learning to to rejoice back to the Lord, because he knows and is exceedingly happy!  In light of the planned Parenthood videos being released, I know that this work is not only  saving Physical lives but it is redeeming souls as we introduce the hurting to Jesus.   If you really want to see the needs of this world, be willing to go into these hard places….whether it be a pregnancy center,  homeless shelter, a safe house, a rehab center, a nursing home a home for the disabled, a hospital. or any other place you can think of. The needs are great, though things may be painful at times reaching out to others and sharing Jesus is HUGE.

Another area that I have been stretch in and learned some new things took place within the last two weeks.  Using my gifts and abilities in BIGGER ways and in doing that it is in the public eye more which means learning too to be more  tolerant to those who are more critical of my gifts and abilities.  God has given us all gifts and abilities to be used, it is our job to grow them…..to figure them out, to fine tune them  and then to actually USE them.   As a parent is is also my job to see them and to develop them in my children and give my children the opportunity to use their gifts and abilities.  For years I have used my artistic abilities in little ways…through homemade cards, scrapbooks, little jewelry projects, gifts and so on, and in recent years I have used to artistic/design abilities to help with a parade float each year. And most recently i(within the last two weeks) My husband and I have built an entire set for VBS.   I have NEVER done anything to that scale. It was physically draining BUT Amazing  all wrapped into one. And when I was done, I was amazed that I had done it.   I couldn’t believe I was capable of such a thing.   BUT God is completely responsible.  HE gifted me, He gave me the ability I had to just be willing to use those things.  I had to be willing to EMBRACE my gifts and talents.  Ive endured ridicule for years for “wasting my time” doing “arts and crafts” and by sill”doing little kid” Projects, All of these “little, kid-like” projects I could do for Jesus.   These things were hard to hear (especially from friends and family) and I felt rejected, because I liked these things.  or that I spent time doing something others didn’t uderstand or that they thought just were a plain waste of time.  But in reality God gave me those gifts and if I didn’t use them…even in the little things, it would be a complete waste of resources HE gave me. I would not have been a good steward of those talents. We tend to think of resources as  time, materials and money BUT our gifts and abilities fit in there too!

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And the next area of stretching is about to happen….its just two short days away and its taking all kinds of Stregth and courage, I just didn’t think I had!  My husband encouraged me to take a one week writing  break…..a break away from HIM and THE KIDS! I have been a wife for 12 years and a  mom for 10.  I have never been away from my children more than 48 hours at a time.   I manage our crazy schedule.  I plan and prep everything, I co-teach Sunday school with my husband.   I help in pretty much every are and I am not used to not being involved!.   SOO to be so removed and to be focused on myself is  not normal and not easy.  I have to relinquish shopping for school supplies. Kitty getting fixed, prepping for sunday school class, being apart of a moms group at the VBS program the kids will be attending (not at our church) letting someone else watch our kids during aan AWNA mtg, business mtg and prayer mtg.  AND its quite possibly one of my kids MIGHT be ill–.. he had a phantom fever AND is now complaining of a sore throat.  Did I mention I haven’t been alone at nighttime in over 12 years…I either have a husband or kids…Im not sure I like this, but I am willing to trust, my husband and God!  But this is also two fold.  This time will be also to build my writing gift and ability, working towards a book.  That is going to be hard, fighting distractions…like bed.  I won’t have TV and I have set some very lofty goals for the week.  Can I meet them all. I have a feeling I can…if I am very focused and VERY diligent, but its still HUGE test !  (NOTE: I wrote that thought Two days ago…and now here I sit ALONE.  It’s weird, no kids to kids club, no hubby sitting next to me in church or standing in the pulpit preaching, No kids begging to go to the pool, playground or to ride their bikes)

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Another amazing opportunity That has stetted me and taught me MANY new things is Working as a Part of the RAISING GENERATIONS TODAY CONFERENCE Embrace team.  I have learned oodles upon oodles of things about social media…and I know I have a whole lot more to learn.   I haven’t mastered many areas and new options are added all the time…Like the most recent…Periscope, cool idea but a whole new level.  I have learned through this how to schedule posts for FB (Yeah That was aBIG blunders on my part at the beginning))  and using the Buffer app on my iPad to schedule twitter posts…and there is the idea of writing twitter posts…and keeping within the 145 characters, all while tagging the company, adding a link AND a photo.  It takes some Mad skills…Im nowhere close to having them, but with each and every post I gain new confidence and understanding .(click on the pic below to check out RGT….This is NOT an affiliate link)

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All of these things sound great but besides my own benefit it helps my children Immensely to see me struggle in areas Im not good at. It helps them to see me  accomplish something difficult and to conquer it, AND  to ask for help. So many times kids think they need to have it all together, that they need to be perfect and that they need to be good at everything. They also need to see my husband  and I are willing to stretch ourselves, to go beyond what we are comfortable with…AND to FAIL.  Yes sometimes we fall flat on our faces.  They NEED to see us get back up, dust ourselves off AND TRY AGAIN! Then we as parents need to be willing to talk about all of those things…the good, the ugly AND the Painful!. (Obviously age appropriateness  applies here) In reality the entire family can benefit from  mom and dad stepping out in faith, trusting God to grow their gifts and abilities and try new and sometimes scary things.

So what are some NEW things that you are growing in?  Are you having a willing spirit or are you dragging your feet kicking and screaming the whole way?   What would you like to learn?

Hubby to the Rescue

So i told you in my last post that we have been at camp…a Bible Conference where our camper now calls home.   This specific Bible Conference has earned a nickname  based on its real name and the end is changed to SOGGY…..that has defined MOST of our vacation…..S-O-G-G-Y, and today spawned some UNEXPECTED  torrential downpours and thunderstorms.   It has been extremely warm, so we went to the pool, which was wonderful, but then Rose and I went to the shower house.  On the way I noted some VERY ominous looking  clouds.  As Rose finished her shower it started to rain, first a few little drops, which got a little harder and a little harder and then WHAM!  and a few minutes later BLACKNESS. yep NO power at all.  Rose and I prayed that God would lighten the rain so we could walk back to the camper but 2 minutes later the familiar rumble of the diesel engine of my knight and shining armor’s Thundering stallion  echoed off the  shower house walls and my heart lept.  sure enough….this pulled up next to the shower house

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WHAT A BLESSING!

and what a lesson in love to our daughter……and to our sons.  They rode along with daddy to “RESCUE” mommy and sister in the pouring rain, and thunder and lightening AND the darkness.  they could have stayed in the nice dry camper and just waited for us.   but instead they braved the elements and came to our rescue.  such a simple statement, such a little thing….maybe to you on the outside looking in, but its all those little gestures that turn into HUGE statements of love AND care! Thank you LOVE!

and as I look back over my life I think about all the “little” rescues And the not so little rescues our Heavenly Father has done for us.  it’s not just chance.  All of the basketball teams bags out of a burning van? not chance…..NO ONE saw ANYONE get them out.   A sudden unanimous vote to stop less than a half an hour into  a trip back home-then the van bursts into flames?  NOT a coincidence.  two pastor friends moving half way across the state, to two different churches, to live 30 minutes away from each other and one of the pastors goes through something horrible and the other is there to help pick up the pieces, …….the right amount of money showing up at the right time to finish off a college payment so no loan will be needed, a deer strategically standing in the middle of the road, she never moves as you apply your brakes and slow up as you crest the hill. at the bottom of the hill is black ice and your vehicle fishtails…had you not slowed down for the deer the fishtail could have turned devastating…on Christmas eve.10 minutes from your destination.

God loves us so much ad i often wonder how much we don’t see.  The things listed about have all happened to me. NONE of them are coincidence…NOT. A. ONE.    There are so many areas in which we think nothing of and yet, when the big stuff happens it surprises us.  WHY? Why do we think its unusual for God to show up in miraculous ways, to love us in BIG ways?

Are there ways in which God has shown up in your life…..In Big or little ways?   (HINT the little ways are really HUGE when you start adding them all up!)   Share them in the comments!