A Not So Happy Homemaker Monday

Happy

Happy Monday friends. I’m writing this post today Sunday because I do not know what tomorrow holds. I have this wonderful pooch who is not doing so great. She turned 13 on Friday and we know she has been declining over the last year but this last week she took a big nose dive. At this point we are taking it moment by the moment. We know that she s failing fast.

She has been with our family for 9 of her 13 years and she has been amazing! I love how dogs know when you are going through stuff. And she has been no different. Her sweet smile and her constant companionship has been a hue blessing! And I am rejoicing in the blessing have having gotten to call her mine for so many years!!

♥♥ The Weather ♥♥

As of right now it is cold and snowy! But starting tomorrow we will be in the mid and upper 40’s with days in the mid- 50s scttered in the week as well. Tere isn’t a whole lot of sun in the forecast jus pretty much the typical gray of April in central NY

♥♥  As I look outside my window ♥♥

Gray skies and snow

♥♥  Right now I am ♥♥

Typing this post while listen to music in my ear buds ( I have discovered this is a fabuous way for me to focus while I am writing. I am often distracted by background noise no matter where I am writing.

♥♥  Thinking and pondering ♥♥

At this point I am trying not to think and ponder too much. I am trying to keep my mind focused on being busy. I ave an incredibily active imagination.

♥♥  Homemaking tips ♥♥

♥♥  How am I feeling ♥♥

Sad. For some odd reason we lose pets after soe big emotional experience. I am not sure why. This is the second dog I have lost. I was telling hubby the other day I’m going to end up with a complex. 2 completely different circumstances and really BAD TIMINING

♥♥  On the breakfast plate ♥♥

coffee

♥♥  On my reading pile ♥♥
  • 3 more counseling books (they are short little things just shy of a hundred pages each
  • The Book of Acts
  • The Life Giving Home (Finish March and April)
  • Starting Point (for mentoring)
  • Hello Fears
♥♥  On my TV this week  ♥♥

nothing

 ♥♥  On the menu  ♥♥ 
  • Monday- Pizza and salad
  • Tuesday-Hamburgers and French fries
  • Wednesday- Tater Tot Casserole
  • Thursday- Chili and Bread
  • Friday-Beef Stroganoff
  • Saturday BLTs
  • Sunday- Chicken Bacon Ranch Casserole
 ♥♥  From the camera  ♥♥

I saw this from the Women of Faith Facebook page and knew I needed to share it. We all desperately need this reminder, sometimes on a regular basis.


♥♥  Looking around the house  ♥♥

This is going to be redundant over the next few weeks. Boxes, cleaning, organizing downsizing …Need I say anymore?

♥♥  To do list  ♥♥

See above

♥♥  Devotional  ♥♥

Colossians 3:12 NLT

 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

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Gratitude in the Middle……of the Mundane

Mundane

The mundane, the day in and day out. The mundane can be as some put it…BORING. It’s the washing of the dishes for the 4,503rd time. It’s also doing the laundry for the 15,450th time. If you look at it as just the act of doing, yes it seems so mundane and even boring.

Change the narrative

what if we changed the narrative, first in our heads and hearts, and then what comes out of our mouths?

So much of our day-to-day life is affected by what we think and then what we say. And then what we say influences those around us.

My question is what if we stopped looking at those very acts as mundane and instead looked at those tasks as gifts?

I struggle with this. A LOT. My brain gets distracted and bored easily. I’d much rather be…..you name it but I need to be responsible too

Negative self-talk makes us see life in a negative light. And that goes for the mundane as well. When we change the narrative we change the perspective.

Changing the Perspective

Much like the choice of changing the narrative we can choose to change the perspective we have on what our day looks like. Yes, our day can be absolutely rotten. But we aren’t talking about the rotten, that’s coming. Today we are talking about picking up the toys, checking the mail, washing the dishes, throwing a load of laundry in the washing machine, forgetting to move it to the dryer yet again, and hitting the repeat button like a teenager playing the same song over and over and over again. You love the song at first BUT over time it loses its meaning…..or really we lose sight of its meaning. We just get cold to the meaning.

So let’s change our narrative and our perspective!

We have some Choices to make

Let’s start by thanking God for those tasks and our ability to do them.

I know this first hand because there are a couple of things I wish I could do BUT I can’t. And as Can’t I mean I physically can’t….one is actually illegal for me to do!

I cannot drive (though I was once almost mistakenly given a driver’s license a story for another time). I know that I never got to experience the mundane of driving kids here there and everywhere. But I ask you to see what a gift it is. Time with your kiddos. rocking out to their tunes and sharing yours, singing out at the top of your lungs, or having heart conversations.

Be grateful to God for what you have. Just like I am choosing to be grateful for what I have….a unique relationship within my family. I Have to rely on my hubby. If I have to go somewhere I don’t go alone. He’s with me. We have more conversations in the car just because that’s the time we have.

So now it’s Your turn

What’s something that you maybe view as mundane or take for granted that you can choose to change the narrative and perspective on this week? Can you look at that through the eyes of someone who may have different circumstances than you?

Let me know how you intend to change the narrative and/or perspective this next week in the comments below and have a great week!

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Meet the Team

Team

Happy Wednesday Friends! I have been waiting on the edge of my seat for almost two weeks to introduce you to my prayer team. In reality, these sweet women have been praying for me a lot longer than when I asked them to join me on my journey. They are the only other 2 people on this website who I will use their real first names. This is just another baby step in me letting go of the “mental chess game” I have been struggling with for some time. And in giving up the game I am going to share about these two very special ladies. I can honestly tell you that without them the 100 Days of Choosing Courage blogging project I did this past August-November would have never been finished!

Why A Team

We were never meant to do life alone. We were made to need each other. This is something that God has been teaching hubby and I for some time now. It is why we chose the church we chose. It’s not just about just having a team either. It’s about having the right team. One that loves unconditionally and cares for each other and seeks the others best interests and growth over their own.

Who they are

Meet Beth and Steph! These two women! they amaze me. Each of them has quite the stories of their own. The really held me up last December when my health was turned on its ear. They checked in, they sent encouraging texts, and really listened when I was struggling.

Beth has been a LONG TIME friend of hubby’s family. Beth’s two sons played with Hubby and his brother at the same bible conference we have attended for many years. And now Her grandkids and our kids run and play in the same places their dad did over 20 years ago. Beth and I have connected deeply while at the Bible conference and our friendship has just grown over the last number of years. When hubby and I told her and her hubby that he was resigning from his position they came to us and we had lunch and talked. If ever I’ve had an iron sharpening iron friendship this is it!

Steph and I have been friends since college albeit not as close as we are now. We reconnected through a mutual friend and our friendship has grown deeper as well. We have kids the same age. Our families have a great time together and Steph has been a real light in some struggles we can often be found texting each other about some insanity one of our crazy children has done! A few times she has talked me off the ledge of frustration.

Why a prayer team

BECAUSE I NEED A LOT OF PRAYER! Actually, I was chatting with another friend who is another author and she mentioned she had a prayer team. We talked about what that looked like and the why. That was a number of years ago and I was not in the place to have such a thing. There is A LOT that goes into this but it just wasn’t the time.

Fast forward to this past August when I attended the Global Leadership Summit with hubby. To say I was sick at the time was an understatement Anxiety was an all-day everyday experience I was barely functioning on extremely low iron. Actually, the second day of the conference started out with my first iron infusion But during that conference, I heard a speaker talk about her 100 days of facing her fears. AND AT THAT MOMENT I KNEW…I had to face a fear…YES, ONE…..BLOGGING! weird right? I have been blogging for this insane amount of time and I was afraid of it. Well, that’s because I have been roughly criticized by people who I counted as friends. Those hurts caused me to nearly quit but I have this pretty amazing hubby who wouldn’t let me do that. Enter more mental Chess.

Actually, I had to face two fears. I knew I was going to need accountability and that was going to require me asking someone….and EVERY other time that happened it ended with me getting hurt HORRIBLY. To say I had trust issues is an understatement.

So I prayed and asked God who could serve as a prayer partner for this journey I was about to undertake. Steph was the first person I would ask and then a few weeks later I would add Beth. I created a text thread that introduced the two of them and the rest is history.

The Journey

I cannot tell you the number of times I hit a roadblock and one of the two of them OR BOTH would text me and tell me what the last post had meant to them. It would give me the shot in the arm I needed to keep going.

If I happened to be struggling with a topic or something I could shoot some thoughts off of them. And when that journey ended in November we still kept in contact via that text thread and we still shared prayer requests frustrations and other things.

Fast forward to two weeks ago. I had a rather nerve-wracking meeting scheduled for a Tuesday morning. God had really made some things come to the forefront in my life and it needed to be dealt with as much I didn’t want to. I needed prayer. I knew Hubby would be praying for me but I knew that I needed o contact Steph and Beth and asked them to do the same. And they said they would…..but they like the amazing friends they are didn’t leave it there! They checked in later that night.

AND ALL I HAD TO SAY WAS……

“I wish I could have coffee with the two of you.” Their response was Let’s make it happen and within 10 minutes we had a date time and place. And this past Friday it happened. Steph and Beth had never met each other. It was amazing. I had never had something like that happen. And I spilled my guts. They listened. They loved, We laughed and we grew together. They know there are going to be some challenging posts coming down the line. I don’t know when. But I know that I can count on them to pre-read and pray me through and help me fight off the mental chess games I apparently love to play.

When It comes down to it these two ladies have challenged me to be the best me I can be. When I asked them to take on this role I had no idea what path I was going to head down next. I am a fairly content person. I am not looking for the next cliff to leap off of because we ALL know how I feel about Heights!! ACK!

But as We wrapped up Friday’s meeting I had something rolling in my head. Back in September Beth had read one of my Posts “When You Lose Yourself” and she said she thought it would work great as a book chapter (Beth has known for a long time that this is a HUGE dream that not very many people know about). She said she felt like it was the beginning of a book….and as I sit here re-reading that post I am dumbfounded. She saw something I didn’t and now….now I have more to add..more I didn’t know or maybe understand before

As a matter of fact, as I have sat here scrolling the text messages over the last 8 months a lot has happened. God really is so amazing at how he orchestrates things.

Thank you Ladies

Thank you for embarking on this wild journey that NONE of us fully understand we are on!

Thank you for dropping everything for me!

Thank you for your shining example of friendship and Jesus’ unconditional love.

Thanks for checking in!

Thanks for reading!

Thank you for making me laugh!

Thanks for helping me become a better Jesus follower and communicator!

And most of all thank you for praying!!!

Getting Ready: Happy Homemaker Monday 3-28-2022

Ready

Good Morning friends and Happy Monday! I cannot believe last week just flew by! We find ourselves in full swing of getting ready for our upcoming move. We don’t know when that is exactly because……that’s life but we need to be ready in certain ways. And getting sick TWICE in March hindered those plans so now we need to get back into gear.

Thanks for joining me today!

♥♥ The Weather ♥♥

.So this week we get to experience the full spectrum of what sprig REALLY is like in central NY. We have temps today with a HIGH of 18 and then by Thursday, we will be in the mid- 60’s. we will have everything from snow to good old thunderstorms and hopefully, a bunch of sun mixed in!

♥♥ As I look outside my window ♥♥

SNOW- Can’t even see the mountain behind our house. Give it a few minutes and the sun will be trying desperately to peek out…

    ♥♥ Right now I am ♥♥ 

At the kitchen table with my Bullet Journal and pen by my side. I have to keep taking breaks from this blog post to jot down all the “things to do” running through my head. There is so much to do!!

♥♥ Thinking and pondering ♥♥ 

SOOO much. I guess the biggest two things are my ever-mounting to-do list. Both school-related and house-related. And then blogging ideas that seem to be running free. I can’t seem to keep on top of the ideas. I carry a notebook with me EVERYWHERE!


 ♥♥ Homemaking tips ♥♥ 

As we plan to “live ” in our camper as we transition to working on our new home (that will hopefully happen at the end of the month) I have created a four-week rotating menu. Thankfully we will not be limited by minimal electricity/ Fridge/ Laundry and the like. I just needed to create a simplified menu that eliminated the brainwork I usually invest in it each week.


♥♥ How I am feeling ♥♥

I think that because of having COVID it hurt my immune system (As if I didn’t have enough trouble!!). The Doctor who monitors my IVIG said that’s probably why my numbers are lower so I have managed to struggle with a bunch f stomach issues. I have also been dealing with some longtime stress. Not a bad thing but it can be for sure mentally draining at times. So As I have worked through some of that stuff over the last few weeks I have been in the process of laying boundaries for myself and creating a series of checklists for myself that takes away the trying to remember certain things every day. It has helped for sure

♥♥ On the breakfast plate ♥♥

Cup of coffee and some toast

♥♥ On my reading pile ♥
  • Finishing the book of John
  • The Life-Giving Home
  • Guilt
  • Hello Fears
♥♥ On my TV ♥♥

Nothing really but I’m listening to the Mom to Mom Podcast and some books on my Kindle app

♥♥ On the menu ♥♥

Monday – Soup and salad
Tuesday – Make Your own salad bar
Wednesday – Tacos
Thursday – Sandwiches and salad
Friday – Ribs and mashed potatoes
Saturday – Tater Tot Casserole
Sunday –  Baked Ziti

♥♥ From the camera ♥♥
Our drive to church late last week
♥♥ Looking around the house ♥♥I

BOXES UPON BOXES

♥♥ To do list ♥♥

All the normal stuff…dishes, laundry and the like but Also packing, I also need to prep for my meeting tomorrow. Daily reading and general end-of-quarter stuff for school.


♥♥  Prayer List ♥♥

Chruch friends, family, and friends who are struggling. Ukraine.



♥♥ Today’s Devotional ♥♥

“But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father. “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow! This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.

I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name. This is my command: Love each other.”‭‭John‬ ‭15:7-17‬ ‭NLT‬‬

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Back to Normal- Happy Homemaker Monday

Normal

Welcome back, friends. As some of you know we were “on vacation” last week! Well, let’s just say that vacation wasn’t really…..VACATION!?!

But we are back to our normal schedules this week and I think that for the most part, we have recovered!!! Not much work got done in the sense of what we had originally hoped but it was still good and profitable!!

♥♥ The Weather ♥♥

This coming week resembles more of what spring usually looks like in central NY. We will have temps in the ’40s and 50s with rain and snow. and NOT a whole lots of sun.

♥♥ As I look outside my window ♥♥

Gray and rain- typical March weather here. Nugget is excited though She saw her friend the resident woodchuck…She really hasn’t left her door with the windows all day.

♥♥ Right now I am ♥♥ 

writing this post and texting a friend 

♥♥ Thinking and pondering ♥♥ 

BAHAHA there isn’t enough space here to share that! But to get an inside glimpse into my ponderings you can check out yesterday’s blog post here.

♥♥ Homemaking tips ♥♥ 

 When I plan meals for the week I always make sure there is always a pasta meal and a soup meal. I have numerous reasons for this. Top of the list is it’s economical and fast. The second reason is if I am sick or away Hubby or the kids can make it without too much thought or preparation

♥♥ How I am feeling ♥♥

I am feeling really good. Working through a bunch of stuff and it has been really good. Hard but really good.

♥♥ On the breakfast plate ♥♥

Coffee and egg whites

♥♥ On my reading pile ♥

Hello Fears
John (from the Bible)
The Life-Giving Home
and I will be restarting the book Boundaries this week
A bunch of smaller books

♥♥ On my TV ♥♥

Hubby and I watched the hiding place last night otherwise. Nothing.
Listening to some podcasts though

♥♥ On the menu ♥♥

Monday – Soup and salad
Tuesday – BBQ chicken and Potato Salad
Wednesday – Cheesesteak stuffed Peppers
Thursday -Sandwiches and salad
Friday – Pasta
Saturday – Tacos
Sunday – Meatball Subs

♥♥ From the camera ♥♥

our girl playing soccer

♥♥ Looking around the house ♥♥

The floor needs mopping again
the table needs to be cleaned off
continue packing
at this point, there are just boxes everywhere

♥♥ To do list ♥♥

PACK PACK PACK
get rid of
Downsize
Repeat
oh and keep the house clean and homeschool in the process

♥♥  Prayer List ♥♥

Wisdom strength and courage- that seems to be the ongoing theme for both myself and a good majority of my friends and family.

It seems like a good many of my friends are either just gone through a big life change are currently going through a big life change or are anticipating a big life change

♥♥ Today’s Devotional ♥♥

These verses have been constantly coming up over the last two weeks. I have been learning a lot about God and myself. And these verses have become such reminders …

Galatians 1:10

10 Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.

Proverbs 12:18 NLT

Some people make cutting remarks,
    but the words of the wise bring healing.

Proverbs 4:23 NLT

Guard your heart above all else,
    for it determines the course of your life.

Proverbs 15:14

A wise person is hungry for knowledge,
    while the fool feeds on trash.

2 Timothy 1:7 NLT

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity but of power, love, and self-discipline.

Thanks so much for joining me for Happy Homemaker Monday! What’s on your plate for this week? Let me know in the comments below and Have a Happy Week!

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