As we journey together “let us think of ways to motivate one another in acts of love and good works”(Hebrews 10:24 NLT)

I know what you are thinking…”This is going to be about one of her kids breaking a plate and her forgiving them”.   and I would have to say , WRONG”.  Truth be told I break more dishes than the kids!  Anyway, this blog post is about laundry!  You are completely confused , Right?  Well Keep reading!  I promise it will make sense in the end!

(Now i want you to know right up front that the two picture quotes i’m going to use from Facebook are not mine but they belong to and were created by someone else.  I tried finding the rightful owners but to no avail!  So please note i would have asked permission if I knew who to ask!)

So here are the two pictures:

Which of these two is based in biblical principle?

Not sure…well there is a discussion based on the plate picture……by smashing a plate on the floor , it becomes virtually useless. Have you ever seen a plate fall onto tile floor? Let’s just put it this way…only an act of God could put the pieces back together. In this manner the people discussing this plate idea is saying that by saying things we are rendering someone useless? I struggle with that big time! Yes it hurts, yes it does damage, yes there are consequences but that picture? Murder does that, rape could do that, but words of a child? I think that’s is pretty harsh.

After all, mobs of people were yelling crucify him, crucify him, he had been beaten with a whip with pieces of pottery, bone and metal at the ends, he was being mocked and spit on, he had a crown of thorns pushed on his head, he was nailed to a cross and still he spoke out to his Father and said “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.”

Other than a simple repentance, nothing is asked of us. I don’t have to repay my debt to Jesus. I choose to live my life as a sacrifice to him.I might have smaller consequence s to pay for sins i do, but the ULTIMATE Consequence is covered. I find it funny how before once single repentance was uttered Christ requested forgiveness! Of all circumstances of all time, Christ was the ultimate smashed plate! And yet he was NEVER BROKEN! He forgave before an apology was ever given.

So what about the laundry?

Well before i saw the plate picture last night, i had trouble with my 7 year old daughter. She is my helper. When i need something done I can count on her to help me out, but last night was different. I had placed two laundry baskets of laundry in her room to be folded. When i came upstairs I found the two laundry baskets empty outside of the laundry room but didn’t see anything folded and the laundry pile had grown—SIGNIFICANTLY! Now after being sick for nearly a week I was frustrated with her! She had never done anything like this before. I let her know i wasn’t happy with the situation and I also let her know my trust was broken! after a tearful apology about 10 minutes later, I “forgave”her but I assured her, my trust in her was still damaged. (But in all reality…i deserved to be angry. She did make more work for me…and after i had been so far behind because I have been sick)

A couple hours later as i climbed into bed I saw the plate picture had been posted by a couple of different people, and God spoke to me through it……convicted I resolved to apologize to my daughter this morning due to my bitterness! Yes she did wrong, yes she had consequences this morning but do I chose to still trust her….the short answer is yes! Why? Because I chose to give her a second chance, for this very reason Christ doesn’t take back eternal life. GRACE AND MERCY!.

Grace is giving someone something they don’t deserve. (A second chance)

Mercy is NOT Giving someone what they do deserve. (A lack of trust)

So yes my daughter may not deserve my trust but I chose to give it to her.

Why should have Christ trusted Peter with the ministry he would have later? After all he denied not once, not twice but three times. Talk about broken trust! Yet God chose to use Peter! AND bless Peter! Did Peter get away with it? No he had to answer to Jesus himself. Jesus CHOSE to give Peter a second, third and fourth chance Did my daughter get away with creating extra work for me and not obeying me? No she is having to do extra work too! And i will be watching her in her chores!

Let’s be honest what you teach your kids, may be a detriment to your relationship with your child later in life.

Because not only do they make mistakes so do you and inevitably someday you will say something that will hurt them deeply. You may not mean it, but that broken plate lesson will come back to mind. And your relationship with that child will be damaged forever, because what you really taught them was it’s okay to let people break you, and it’s ok to hold a grudge and be bitter.

Is that really what you want them to learn or would you rather them learn what true grace, mercy, and forgiveness really looks like. After all I know that when I get to heaven all of those times I have asked God to forgive me of certain things, they won’t be recounted. They were wiped away!

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…..and I promise they will, forgive them! We work so hard as moms to teach them, ” if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!”  Usually this is all directed at siblings or little friends and/or acquaintances, but one day I promise it will be directed at you!  It’s gonna hurt..A LOT!  Then you are going to blame yourself.  You are going to tell yourself, “i failed my kid”. , ” i didn’t do a good enough job.”   No matter their age!  Whether they are 3 or 13.

This was a journey I had to endure a lot over the last year.  Something that I have endured with each child as they test new waters.  As we teach them respect, love and kindness.  And each one has matured and moved past this phase. Well all except one.  One who doesn’t understand life the way most people do.  At the drop of a hat life can change from a happy  fun day to a dark storm brewing in the corner of a room just waiting to explode for no apparent reason at all.  And whoever is in his path may just be in the line of fire of his brutal tongue lashing.

One thing we learned right away was to show no emotion.  Emotion fed his anger and frustration so in a soft voice we would respond, ” there is nothing you could ever say or do could ever cause us not to love you.”

So he re-directed his speech.  To God.  Oh this hurt a thousand times worse!  Especially since this little guy had prayed to be saved at age four before all of this started!  I doubted his faith as he went through this emotional frustration.  I thought to myself , ” oh Lord please forgive this little guy, he has no idea what he is saying!”

One day in particular was awful as i sat there holding my screaming, thrashing child….i prayed for strength!  I prayed for courage.  I prayed for help.  I started to sing…..amazing grace grace how sweet the sound…. He fought even harder andI sang   louder.  All of a sudden he relaxed, all the tension relieved!  I prayed out loud.  When i was done with tears running down his red little face he looked at me and said, “mommy i am so sorry for all the things I said.  I didn’t mean them.   I don’t know why I said them.” I looked at him with tears in my eyes and said ” i forgive you buddy, but do you know who else you need to say sorry to?”  He looked down at his lap and said “God”. And without one single prompt his folded his hand and closed his eyes and prayed the most eloquent prayer of repentance I had ever heard…from anyone…ever!  Let alone a nearly 5 year old Autistic boy!  At that moment i knew God  knew and understood!

My doubts were all gone.  I had a new understanding of forgiveness!  God will never hold his words against him….and neither should I.  Somedays it’s harder than others.  I have to realize it’s not my failure.  He’s human.  He’s gonna have bad days!  He’s going to sin, for that matter so will  I.

So why not be that picture of Christ to all my kids…not just the one who struggles!  After all they will all struggle!

The neat thing is now he asks for Amazing Grace and for me to pray out loud! And in that I have helped my son!

i know that this season is difficult press forward…god will bless!

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There was a blog challenge placed before me a few months back that I promptly placed on a to-do list half a mile long.   

As I looked back over my blog planner, it struck me that I had partially written it but never REALLY completed it. AND. Since this years goals have all been based around finishing what I have already started I decided to go ahead and finish this somewhat daunting task.

Dear Mary,

Life has not handed you things on a platter.  You have had to experience things in  the past 13 years of your life that people will never experience in their lifetime.  The thing is Mary, it’s actually going to get worse before it gets better.  Those dark moments that you are going to experience are going to lead to some of the most amazing experiences you could never imagine.  You will get to see and do things only a handful of Americans will ever get to experience.  Don’t dwell in those dark moments press forward.

I know at this moment in your life you could care less about boys but in not too long from now you will have a crush on someone not worth your time.  Focus on God.  Learn. Study. Grow.

Develop your talents. Draw. Paint. Write.  TAKE ART!  Don’t be afraid of the teacher!  Everyone’s a critic.  Practice what you love. Your future husband (yep you are gonna get married) wants you to do what you love.  Don’t waste your time with TV or on the phone.  All of that stuff is in vain! Read the classics.   As an adult you will tackle a 900 page book that changed history…you will at that point regret not reading other such books.

Back to the topic of boys……don’t date!  Don’t waste your time!  God has someone just for you and it’s not gonna start the way all the others did.  You are going to be best friends first. And then one day it’s gonna hit you…HARD!  You won’t be able to imagine your life without him!  The two of you will have lots of fun.   You will see much of this country together!

You are going to have many ideals about life.  Having a husband. Having kids (yep that’s gonna happen too) being a Pastor’s wife ( i know that’s exactly what you didn’t want to hear)….listen to me now…THROW THEM ALL OUT THE WINDOW RIGHT NOW!   God’s gonna show you that not everything fits into a neat and tidy box that you can hold .  One of your children is going to re-aarange EVERYTHING. You thought you knew about parenting.  

Build your foundation now on God.  I know you are going to be frustrated with everyone telling you to do your devotions but not really telling you how.  Just read.  Start with Genesis and read…..and keep reading until the very last verse in revelation and then start all over again!

FOCUS

PRAY

FIGHT

STUDY

LEARN

LOVE 

FORGIVE

BE HAPPY

SMILE

friends come and go….but God remains by your side forever! Be comfortable with who you were created to be !

Love,

ME

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