When God Chooses Your Child To Impact His World

This morning  was a very unusual one..  Not bad just all re-arranged!   So we put the 3 older kids on the bus at 7:45 . Hubby was putting the last car seat in the car (he took all the car seats out to find a leak on the drivers side. ). He put the key in the ignition at 8 am …and the thing would not start!   The thing is, it had worked  just an hour or so prior to all of this.  Now what? We couldn’t take the Excursion it was promised to a family in our church.  They were going to borrow it for the weekend and we had to drop off our youngest son at a sitter and run to school for a meeting about our five year old autistic son.  So we un -borrowed a truck for an hour, dropped off the Bean and headed to school….we were 15 minutes late for the meeting (we called ahead) we went into the meeting all eyes on us (i hate that!) i took a deep breath and the Special Ed chairperson took over.

It was a pretty good meeting, nothing that was said was a surprise all all.   We went over all the findings of his speech, physical and occupational therapy evaluations……big shocker he is below where he should be!  All the while we are in this meeting never once does anyone make  us feel bad that we are bad parents….everyone jst loves weasel!   All positives, out side of being delayed.

The meeting went longer than expected (of course!) but we talked with a few people from the meeting and when all of them cleared my husband was talking to one of our friends from Bible College who is the youth Pastor and teacher at the Christian school where our kids now attend.  He was sharing about how Weasel was impacting  the school.  This is the first time this school is dealing with a kid like Weasel  so they are being stretched and our friend said it was very good for the school, but outside of that, two larger things have happened.   

1. Weasel’s sub aide has reconnected with the school (her older two children attended there) and so now they will be sending their fifth grader!   She loves working with weasel and they have bonded well!

2. Weasels full time sub who is just waiting for her background check to come through, is friends with two families from that church.  Those two families have been encouraging the aide and her family to come to church there for sometime now.  Through weasel, she is becoming more involved with the church and hopefully this will open doors to her husband hearing the gospel.

Our friend was a huge encouragement to us, as sometimes you hear all the “bad” things.  It was so neat to hear this kind of of stories.  Our friend so so excited to tell us of Weasel’s impact!  We needed to hear that!

It just goes to show us that God has a reason for everything.  It might not be how we intended life to go BUT if you watch and pray AMAZING things WILL happen!

Being Ok With Where You are…..CHAPTERS 5,6&7 and THE WINNER!

 it has been one long , super crazy  day!  I lay all snuggled under my quilt in my hoodiefootie. I dozed off before hubby brought in the Apples we picked tonight!  Yes apples forty…..yes 4-0 gallons, that’s roughly 4 and 1/4 bushels.

My morning went something….i went to a lady from our church’s home.  We do this every Tuesday morning.  I got there about 8 :30.  I didn’t get picked up by hubby until 1:45.  From there we went to the local animal shelter to check on two dog possibilities.  ….we found Daffy!   On the way home we realized that hubby had read the time on his watch and after  a quick call to the bus garage, we raced home to get out waiting kids off the bus at home.  From there we tried to leave but hubby misplaced the keys, so we broke into our own home…..got the keys, left , forgot the checkbook. Turned around and came home, took the kids to meet Daffy.  Daffy came home with us but not before going to pick those forty gallons of apples first.  Then to Wal-Mart….then home.  Hubby made dinner and i took care of both dogs…..we put the kids to bed and now I am here!, trying to keep my eyes open as I type!

So the winner is Jen B.   i didn’t need to use random.org only because only one other brave soul chose to comment outside Stacey and myself! So Congrats Jen, i will send Stacey your email tomorrow.

So on with my story!

Chapter 5- Standing on the Promises

In 1996 I was one confused kid. I was beginning to ask some super tough questions.  

“If God really loved me, why am I going through this right now?”

“Why am I so alone in this”

“Why do I have to be SOOOOOOOO DIFFERENT”

And the list goes on and on and on and on…….like a bad kids song that has no end!

But finally there came a promise, a promise that helped me to realize everything was going to be OK….THAT I was going to be OK!

“I will never leave you nor forsake you” hebrews 13:5b

Did it make everything easier….no not really but I knew I was NOT ALONE! And that started me on the road of being ok.

Fast forward….oh I don’t  know 17 years later….(wow has it REALLY BEEN THAT LONG). To this past January.  My husband and I are just beginning to share with others our news of our 5 year old son.  The church takes it mostly ok, some of our family does ok too!  But some family made it very clear that they believed we caused this or that there was absolutely nothing wrong with him.   I again felt very much alone.  My heart cracked,breaking into a million pieces…or at least so it felt anyway!   

The strength and endurance to just keep afloat were some days more than I could handle. It took a week or two but God kept prompting me to read “Hope for the Weary Mom” and as those pages flowed with truth, promises, and REAL HOPE,  I began to understand some pretty amazing things about myself and my son.  One of the things I learned was this….

My hope is not based in doctors, medication, or those who are surrounding me.  My hope is REAL hope.  It’s based in the words God spoke through men!

chapter 6- CHEERLEADERS

In 1996, I didn’t have any!   Friends at church, friends at school, they all had the same problem….focus on themselves.  I was told by some that I was making it up for attention.  I had others tell me they didn’t care, they had their own “stuff” going on.  Right around the time I was blindsided a loved teacher passed away.  I was lost in the shuffle.

In 2013 i have one major cheerleader, my hubby.  He is the only person outside of  God who knows about the things I feel called to do!  I’m not sure why God hasn’t brought cheerleaders into my life.  I have begged, pleaded, cried and searched for mentors and cheerleaders.

 A few years ago I thought I had found such a person but soon realized that as I began to share my heart with her, she shot me down before I even finished my first sentence.  I was heart broken! Now this is not to say that I don’t have friends because I do!  I have great ones but as a pastor’s wife it’s more challenging.   It’s more challenging to enter into those types of relationships AND. For some reason, pastors wives really don’t connect with each other in those ways…at least i have yet to see it in action!

Chapter 7 -PRUNING

i like stacey REALLY dislike this process.  Cutting away, the dead or damaged parts is a really painful process.  I will say this that both in 1996 and now in 2013 both my blindness and my son’s autism have both served as the greatest source of pruning in my life.  

In 1996 God pruned from my life the idea of entitlements……”i deserve this……”

And in2013 God pruned off the last few ideals in parenting that I had left and clung to more than any other thing!

Those were some really hard lessons to learn…perhaps the hardest yet!

Well thanks for joining me today as I shared more of my story!

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Happy Homemaker Monday-September 16,2013

The Weather::: crisp, cool and overcast

Right now I am::BLOGGING…..but in a few moment emptying the dishwasher, reloading the dishwasher (canning season wreaks havoc on my kitchen.) i also have about 30 lbs of onions to dehydrate!  And of course laundry.

Thinking:: it is better to be prepared for what God could ask you to do or go through, than sitting back and ignoring the possibilities!

On my reading pile::: being ok with where you are (2nd time through the book). The Bible, women mentoring women by Terri Jenkin,  a woman after Gods own Heart by Elizabeth George and Overextended…and loving most of it by Lisa Harper (for an upcoming booksneeze review)

On my tv:::nothing

Favorite Blog post this week (mine or other):::oh man, there have been a bunch!

But THIS has to be my favorite for the week!

Something fun to share::: saw on Facebook…..

Cleaning with two dogs in the house is like brushing your teeth while eating Oreos (this seriously made me giggle out loud)

On the menu for this week::

Monday – soup

Tuesday- creamy chicken and rice (crockpot)

Wednesday pork chops, smashed potatoes

Thursday venison ribs (crockpot) coucous

Friday- pizza

Saturday-away most of the day…something quick

Sunday- meatloaf and roasted garlic potatoes…..and fresh bread

On my to do list:::

Finish cleaning the kitchen…we’re talking deep cleaning, and finish all tomato canning (tomato soup), 

Laundry

Sweep and mop kitchen

A couple of cupboards need help too

What I am sewing, crocheting, knitting or creating:: nothing at the moment.  I dont have the ambition for that and canning too!

Homemaking:: it appears this week i must rescue the last few  veggies in the garden as we expected to get frost this week!

Looking around the house:::ugh….i think weasel went on a little man hunt yesterday!  All of my couch cushions are off so I will take this opportunity to vacuum before I put them back!  Our bedroom has clean laundry that needs to be put away , a few of the bathrooms need some attention, and of course I already mentioned the kitchen!

From the camera::: 

On my prayer list:::family frieds

Church

Family

That God would keep our eyes and hearts open to unique ways of serving him!

Bible verse, Devotional:::

Isaiah 43:19 Behold, I am doing a new thing;now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?I will make a way in the wildernessand rivers in the desert. (ESV)

 

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When Friends Turn Their Back on God

This morning my heart is shaken.  Tears have not yet come…this morning, but they have flown freely over the last month or so.

I’m sure we have witnessed people (or ourselves) make some over the top, huge mistakes.  But the biggest mistake anyone single person could make is walking away from their faith in God!

I have watched this happen on two occasions.  One who decided to leave her husband for a man she met online in Pakistan. The other a young lady who just two short months ago only wanted what God wanted for her…and then came along a young man who changed all that….she sacrificed her faith for an unbeliever!

My heart sank as I have read the facebook posts over the last two months.,  i commented speaking truth only in love.  But sometimes the truth hurts…A LOT!  I made a promise quite a few years ago about having a watchful eye.  For dangerous things…and i have kept my promise.  But last night as i tossed and turned fighting a heavy burden, God urged me to move.  You see about three weeks ago I felt compelled to go talk to her I sent her mom a message and it took a little longer than usual but during that time God laid this sense of wait on my heart…i didn’t know why but I did….i waited 3 weeks.  Last night wait turned to move now.  She was going to move out of her parents house!  Away from any Godly influence.  Now was the time but what was I going to do?  I knew.  

This young lady five 1/2 years ago served as my moms helper when my dear hubby was commuting once a week from NY to Michigan.   I was pregnant with our third child and then had him during that first semester.  her family and ours had Thanksgiving. her mom and I were best friends.  she was at my house at least two days a week! I had built report with her.  I had kind of mentored her…and then we moved.  

She will be coming to stay with us for a few months….hard decision …no not really.   Will it be a challenge oh yeah, the will be four first born children in this h house.   She will have to live by our family rules and give up somethings she doesn’t want to necessarily.  But she has chosen to come be a part of  our family.  She has been there already once before.  And hopefully i can work with her without the distractions of the outside world.  Please pray for us.  We know this is going to be a difficult road, but this in this moment is what God wants for us!  THIS won’t kill us so it will make us Stronger!  This is God saying what will you do for me?   This is us saying….ANYTHING!

We count this a blessing that her parents are willing to let us help! We pray her heart will be open to God for it is Him and Him alone than changes hearts and lives!

What would you be willing to do for your friends in this situation?  Is God asking you to reach out to someone?  Is He asking you to be Jesus to someone turning their back on their Savior?   I can’t just look away.  I care too much!  I have often looked at her as another child and  this time she  will be staying with us!