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I find it funny that in my darkest of moments I can convince myself of anything!

And the biggest lie of it all is….”no one understands or cares enough to understand what I am going through”

That couldn’t be farther from the truth!

First off God understands!   He loves us and cares for us.  He wants us to come running to him.  But we (and I mean I) dismiss that, because God isn’t …whatever ( insert your own excuse)!

I mean people Mary!

Ok so, i have an (as in 1) autistic child.   In a crowd full of parents of “Normal” kids….i feel pretty alone.  But what I don’t realize is that the mom who looks like she has it all together is feeling all alone because her husband just  left her.

And that woman in the corner who is chatting boisterously is feeling alone because both of her parents were killed in a car accident.

And the new mom at the table cuddling her infant son is feeling alone in her post pardem depression and lack of sleep!

That alone feeling strikes us all at various times in our lives and yet whether it’s embarrassment, or pride, or fear OR all of the above, we chose to hide it…..deep in those dark recesses of our hearts!

I want to challenge you to open up. Tell someone.  Ask God to give you courage and strength!   And share how you feel.  You can share with your best friend, your spouse, your mom, OR as I choose to, here on my blog.  Transparency helps others, and it helps you

I highly recommend it!

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My view for this morning looks something like this

No joke.  After some super stressful stuff yesterday, hubby came home after his deacon prayer meeting this morning and said “why don’t you come hang out in the woods with me this morning”. To which I replied, ” i don’t think so, i am way behind on blogging and housework.” He said, “just blog in the woods, you can post them when you get home later! And I will keep little bean with me.”

 

What a blessing it is to get away…..to get away from, all the canning, and dehydrating, the housework and the phone!  Just sitting outside in a hoodie jeans and sneakers in the cool autumny (yes I made that up) morning, listening to the breeze in the trees .   

Have you taken time to be thankful for God’s  creation and the beauty that surrounds us?  I know that I have not made time to admire the view!  

Ir really seems like i have to do this every. Single. Day.

My heart grows faint.  I feel as though I fail.   Somedays success is counting all four kids as they sleep.  If they are all there, it’s been a successful day!   Ah you think i jest but in reality losing a child ( literally) is something I have to deal with all the time.  It is probably the biggest worry right now in this phase of having a five year old son with autism!

I never know when or where he will bolt but i literally wake up with panic attacks in the middle of the night  and i have to go check to make sure he is still there.  I have spent SOOOO. Much time keeping my eyes on him that it seems as though EVERYTHING around me is falling apart.  I stand back and i look at half done projects, an unclean  house, devotions needing to be done, one filthy kid who fell asleep before his bath, burnt dinner (or completely forgotten at that). Late paperwork, unreturned phone calls missed emails…and forget the shower!

We like to think that life is this nice, neat little package, that needs to be handled the same way every time.  The problem is that not every day starts the same way!   We can start off the day with getting up early, doing our devos, getting the kids lunches packed….you know the mornings that RARELY start that way…lol we would love them to, but then  reality POPS that little day dream bubble!   It’s usually is with someone needing me for something, burning, barking, puking.  Phones ringing, knocks at the door. AND THE LIST GOES ON AND ON………AND ON!

So at the end of the day when the four little munchkins are safe in their beds, and I collapse in a chair, unable to find the mental capacity let alone the physical ability to continue on, and as I scan the debris scattered around me and of the to-do list that once reached Tokyo that now is headed for Beijing and the mountain of laundry that seemed so accomplishable but now feels like Mount Rushmore, where or where do I turn.   I feel alone, ashamed..a failure!  

I have found solace in a couple of things…..

-God is always with me (even in my biggest of messes)

-my joy is not found in the approval of others

-nor is my purpose, rest or faith

-Christ’s blood covered ALL of my imperfections, AND  that is ALL. I need!

-My best is all i have to offer…..anything more is by the grace of God

Those are my resting points.  Those are the things I am confident in.   

I hope this helps!  It surely did for me, as i remind myself of my purpose…to bring glory to God in all that say and do.

That may not look like what you might expect…or what I might expect….

It might just mean being focused on others rather than that to-do list that now reaches to Turkey!

Have a great night all!

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